You were never bad at boundaries. You were just operating inside a system that was never designed to let you come back.
This week, I'm naming the pattern that most self-help completely misses — and what it actually takes to stop losing yourself in all the right decisions.
Read MoreYou're not in it for the trophies. You know that about yourself.
So when that hollow feeling shows up anyway, after the thank you, after the well-meaning praise... it doesn't make sense to you. This post is for that feeling. The one you've been talking yourself out of for years.
Read MoreThere's a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from doing everything right and still not feeling as well as you know you should. For years, I consistently tried different protocols and strategies, good habits and routines. Each one worked a bit, but the results never seemed to equal the effort. I spent over four decades there.
If that's been your experience, there's a reason. Most wellness protocols have a sequencing problem, and it misses an entire subset of people completely. This piece is about how to tell if you're one of them, and what to do if you are.
Read MoreIf you've tried everything available to you and still can't get ahead of the exhaustion, this isn't another post telling you to do more or do it differently.
I've been sitting with something for a long time - a pattern I keep seeing in myself and in the women I work with that nobody has quite named yet. I think the exhaustion has a specific root. And it's not what any of us have been told.
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