High-achieving women experience setbacks while managing both cognitive excellence and empathetic relational processing—what I call dual operating systems. This is why traditional resilience advice falls short, and why the way you recover has to honor your nervous system, not just your productivity
Read MoreIf you're a high-achieving woman who feels guilty every time you close the news app... if your body won't let you rest because caring means staying vigilant... you're not failing. You're experiencing what happens when your empathy system and achievement drive collide during crisis.
Here's what's actually happening in your nervous system—and the regulation strategies that actually help when "just unplug" isn't an option.
Read MoreOur culture has convinced us that pausing makes us weak and reflection is a luxury. I'm done with that narrative. Here's what nobody's saying about rest, nervous systems, and what it actually takes to live sustainably.
Read More"Quitters Day"—January 19th—when 80% of people abandon their New Year's resolutions.
But for high-achieving, deeply attuned women? The real quitting happened on January 5th.
In my article, I break down:
✓ Why January 5th is the actual quit date for HADA women ✓ What dual operating systems have to do with burnout cycles
✓ Why your nervous system won't let you rest (even when you know you need to) ✓ The different question we need to be asking
This one's for the women who are exhausted from pushing through, ashamed for "failing" at self-care, and wondering what's wrong with them.
Read MoreMy head said NO, but my mouth said YES!"
A client said this to me recently, and I felt it in my bones.
Because there was a time when saying NO actually hurt my body—the gut clenching, the neck tightening, the physical resistance to disappointing someone.
If this sounds familiar, I've got 10 tiny (seriously tiny) ways to start practicing NO without the nervous system override. Because you deserve to show up for yourself as much as you show up for everyone else.
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