The Pause IS the Work (And Why Our Culture Won't Tell You That)

Can I be honest with you?

I am so annoyed with my inbox right now.

Email after email telling me to set bigger goals, optimize my morning routine, transform into my best self, become more disciplined, more consistent, more MORE.

And all I can think is: Are you kidding me right now?

I'm over here finally...FINALLY...giving myself permission to pause and reflect. To rest. To actually gain perspective on what happened this past year before I reactively launch into the next one.

And our entire culture is screaming at me that I'm already behind.

That if I'm not planning and optimizing and transforming RIGHT NOW, I'm wasting January's "fresh start energy."

It makes my blood boil.

Because here's what nobody's saying: The pause IS the work.

Resting? That's not laziness. That's your nervous system finally getting a chance to process everything you went through in 2025.

Reflecting? That's not navel-gazing. That's how you actually learn to live by design instead of careening through your life by default.

But our culture has zero patience for this. Zero.

We've collectively decided that pausing makes you weak, that rest is something you have to earn, and that reflection is a luxury for people who don't have real things to do.

And I call BS on that.

So if those "New Year, New You" emails have you feeling like you're not doing enough or you're somehow already behind...I want you to know something:

You're not behind.

You're actually doing the thing most people are too afraid to do. And you can be proud of yourself.

You're pausing long enough to notice that the way you've been living hasn't been sustainable.

And that takes more courage than any vision board ever will.

If you'd like to understand why traditional approaches to burnout and capacity don't work for high-achieving, deeply attuned women...and what actually does...

[Watch my Full Capacity Living training here]

It's 35 minutes that explain why you can't just "care less" or "do less" ... and what to do instead when you're wired to notice everything and care about everyone.

After you watch it, if you want to explore what sustainable ambition might look like for YOUR specific situation, you can book a 50-minute Living by Design Session for $150.

[Schedule your Living by Design Session here]

Here's to a year of living by design,

Lisa

P.S. And if even watching a 35-minute training feels like too much right now? Rest. Seriously. The world will go on. And this will all be here when you're ready.