Meet Lisa, Health, Wellness and Life Coach
Everyone has a story. And I'm guessing you'd like to know mine.
Defining moments happen to all of us. I've always believed you can learn a lot about a person when you see how they responded during critical moments in their lives. Interestingly enough, I didn't assess how I handled those moments in my own life until I was in my mid thirties.
RUMINATE AND HIBERNATE
When I finally did take a look at some of those defining moments in my life, (my college graduation, my wedding, the birth of my two daughters, the death of my father, ending a 23 year marriage and re-establishing life as a single mom) I began to see a pattern of how I handled stress. Whether it was good stress, (graduation) or bad stress, (death of my father) I handled it the same way. My stress relief was hibernation. In stressful situations my inclination was to do a lot of ruminating, a lot of eating, and a lot of sleeping. It was as if I was doing so much thinking about what I should do to handle my stress better, that I didn't take the time to actually do it. Ugh! I'm embarrassed to mention it here, but that's part of my story, and a part of the learning process for me.
Over fourteen years ago I began to ask myself, "So this hibernation thing. How's that working for ya, Lisa?" Clearly, overeating and under-exercising was not helping me. In fact, I was not only overweight by 25 pounds, but my body was achy, my brain lethargic, and my mood low. And during that time, I was forced to deal with some pretty scary health stuff.... high blood pressure, irregular heart beat, and the news that I had actually experienced a stroke sometime in my past. Something had to give.
I didn't know what I needed to do. But, what I did know was that if I did nothing more than my usual, I would get my usual results. As I was finally figuring out, "If nothing changes, nothing changes." I was a single mom of two young girls and my greatest desire was to be a role model for them in strength, character and grace. But how?
THE NEW TO-DO LIST
After years of giving much of myself to others, I needed to make a shift in focus, or my body and my family would pay the price. My daily list of obligations had gotten so long, and sadly, taking care of myself wasn't even on it. I don't know why or exactly when, but something clicked one day when I noticed that everything on my "to do" list was about other people... their needs and concerns. While I knew my daughter's needs were mine, too, I slowly began to realize that the needs of the PTA (for example) weren't necessarily mine. I didn't have to take it all on.
Eventually and quite honestly, reluctantly, I began to "put myself on the list". I devoted more of my time, emotional energy and financial resources toward regaining a healthy balance in my life. Piece by piece; one small change at a time; one step forward, two steps back; I slowly began to see my energy levels go up and my weight go down. It wasn't easy, but it WAS simple. It wasn't fast, but it WAS sustainable. And it was totally worth the effort.
THE MISSING LINK
I guess I'm a slow learner, but finally after my fifth time going through the Weight Watchers program, I realized that I didn't need any more information. I didn't need to learn how to eat well or move my body better. I actually knew what to do. I just wasn't doing it. I came to understand, for me, the missing link was in my mindset. I needed to address my perspectives head on. When I became rock solid in my new healthy mindset, weight loss was no longer a challenge for me. I focused on things that brought me energy, joy and peace... and dieting became a thing of the past.
I wonder if you find yourself in a similar place; knowing that you need to make a change, but not knowing where to start. Maybe you've wrangled with some of the same things I did.
- Do you feel stuck, or maybe even ready for new challenges, but don't know your next step?
- Do you like the summer, but dread those warm, sunny days because you'll have to put on a swimsuit? Or is it even more sad for you... Do you miss out on the fun at the beach, because you won't even wear a swimming suit in public?
- Have your mornings become a practice in patience, as you rifle through your closet trying to find something that you feel good in?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, I want you to know that there is hope. Even when you believe that you have tried it all, there is something that will work for you. Take a look at some people who are just like you. They are now free from diets that deprive. They engage deeply and fully in their important relationships and feel empowered to take action that serves themselves and their families well. They no longer base their worth upon the numbers on the bathroom scale. They have unearthed their values and aligned their careers and activities around things that they are most passionate about. Click here to be inspired by their work.
SIMPLE APPROACH. PROFOUND RESULTS
After having successfully maintained my weight loss, I became a Weight Watchers leader. I still believe in it's effectiveness. As I was leading those meetings, I saw a disturbing pattern. Over and over again, people (sadly, it was mostly women) came up to me and they were worried. They were having trouble maintaining their weight loss. They were often repeat members, and their conversation with me went something like this; "Why can't I keep the weight off? I know what to do. I just don't know why I can't seem to keep doing it. There must be something wrong with me." There was nothing wrong with them.
I felt called to help them release the guilt. My mission became clear as I left Weight Watchers and started my coaching practice:
To provide a simple approach to healthy habit changes, that promises sustainable results without guilt or shame.
MORE ABOUT LISA
Dedicated to empowering individuals and families as they move beyond life challenges, I am a member of the Chisago Lakes Area Chamber of Commerce as well as the Wayzata Chamber of Commerce, and on their Women in Business Committee. I am also a member of Women Entrepreneurs of Minnesota (WeMN), the International Coaches Federation-Minnesota, and the Women Business Networking Team (WBNT).
I am a team member at All Is Wellness, in Lindstrom, MN and a partnering coach with Max Performance, in Minneapolis, MN.
Originally from Pennsylvania, and a graduate of Penn State, I have lived in the Twin Cities since 1999. My two daughters were raised in the Wayzata, MN area, and now are happily settled into university life and post graduate life of their own.
In addition to speaking, writing and coaching on all things related to creating balance, I enjoy music, yoga, bike riding, red wine and dark chocolate.
Want to learn how you can balance your own life? Click here to download my free Book.