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I've got two letters for you.
That's what I wrote on my hand.
In an effort to lose the weight that somehow kept finding me, I joined Weight Watchers for the fifth time. But I had forgotten one thing. You can't lose weight just by joining. After each meeting was over, I quickly slipped back into my old habits... and those habits definitely didn't support my goal of losing weight. It was as if I had completely forgotten that I had any goal of losing weight.
So, my challenge became how to stay focused on my goals when I wasn't yet in the habit. To help me remember my goal, I did something I told my children never to do. Gulp!
To remind myself that I was a Weight Watchers member every day of the week, with every food choice I make, I wrote on myself.
In black permanent marker, I wrote the letters WW on my hand.
And it worked beautifully. It didn't work overnight, but eventually I changed some habits. Those letters reminded me of my ultimate goal and anchored me to my intentions.
Every time I unconsciously reached for something in my pantry, I would see the black "WW" on my hand, it reminded me that my goal was to lose weight. And I would ask myself, "What do you truly want?". When I answered honestly, the ultimate goal of losing weight always won out over the food in the pantry.
I didn't know it at the time, but I was practicing a technique called Anchoring. Interestingly, all of us practice anchoring when we take photos on a vacation or bring back souvenirs from a trip. Those items anchor us to the good time we had, help us rekindle the feelings we experienced, and somehow our momentos have the ability to virtually take us back to that special place in time.
This week I was meeting with a lovely young client of mine who chose to use a pretty radical anchor of her own. She decided to get her hair cut after our first session, to symbolize letting go of the past and embracing a fresh start.
I know many of us routinely get our hair cut. No big deal right? Well, she actually cut off more than 12 inches of her lush mane! She can't hide behind her curls anymore and she doesn't have to carry that extra weight on her shoulders. She admits it hasn't been easy to get used to the change, but she doesn't regret it one bit.
How's that for anchoring yourself to change?
So how can you anchor yourself to a healthy habit change?
Here are 3 Tips For Anchoring to Habit Change:
Choose your goal.
What will anchor you to that goal or action? (Is it something you can carry in your pocket? Is it an image in your mind? Or a favorite song?)
Connect to the anchor frequently. (Touch the anchor throughout the day. Take time to picture what your goal looks like in your mind. Set your a timer to listen to your anchoring song throughout the day.)
Whether you choose to go simple and use two letters, or you choose to be bold and completely change your look, using Anchors is one way we can support ourselves and gain traction while we change habits.
Another way to gain traction is to work with a coach who specializes in just that. I’d like to talk with you, if you are ready for more energy and less stress. Contact me for a complimentary, no obligation Breakthrough Session, and we’ll create anchors and strategies to move you forward.
Isn't it an awesome feeling when you walk into a room and you're courageous? You have no limiting beliefs because you are in a complete state of certainty. This clarity gives you the courage to step out of your comfort zone and to be your very best.
(Insert heavy sigh here) Unfortunately, those confident days are rare for many of us. Why is that?
I believe a big part of that insecurity comes from a story we repeat in our heads. For each one of us our story is different. But the essence of the story is this: "I'm not good enough."
It’s the story that limits our confidence and keeps us tethered to living a pretty average life.
I bet you know the life I'm talking about:
You never stand out or draw attention to yourself.
You would never question your boss in a meeting.
You don't take time away from your family to go out with friends.
You say yes to way too many volunteer commitments.
Do any of these sound familiar? Maybe even embarrassingly uncomfortable?
One way to break the bonds of living a lie is to let go of your limiting beliefs.
Focus on creating affirmations that are specific and actionable. While affirmations like, "I have all that I need" are helpful, they don't provide the specificity which anchor us to our all-important WHY. Positively stated, actionable affirmations have the ability to change our limiting belief into a story of power.
Here is an example:
Before: "I'm a yo-yo dieter. When I lose weight, I can't keep it off."
After: "My body and mind know what keeps me nourished, and I listen to their cues."
Here are 3 steps to change a mindset.
What story have I been telling myself that holds me back?
What is possible when I release that limiting belief?
What affirmation will propel me forward instead?
A good strategy to stay connected to your new affirmation, is to set the alarm on your smartphone so that it chimes every 60 minutes. Once the alarm goes off, recite your affirmation until it becomes a habit.
The process of reprogramming your story is not easy, but with repetition, your limiting beliefs will eventually be replaced by empowering ones.
Would you like to dig deeper into what's holding you back? I’d love to help you.
I work with highly motivated clients who seek clarity and are ready for courageous action. And I offer complimentary, no obligation Breakthrough Sessions. Schedule yours and we’ll create an action plan during our 45 minute coaching call.
I don’t want you to be stuck any longer. Let’s move from limiting to empowering together.